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De-Escalation Training & Methods

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How to Monitor, Understand & Manage Anger Styles
Training: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=quw62_xVEj8
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Change the way we tell the story about anger:  Predict how & when you respond with anger
1. Visual thoughts: focusing on the positive
2. Changing your language: Speak slow & low - change your tone - take pauses in conversation 
3. Changing your body: breathe, sit up straight, kinesthetic changes 
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4 Step Framework: How to Get Customers to Accept Your Word as Final
Training: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CdCU3e0SZGo&t=601s
 
Be Clear:  balance tone so you are not aggressive, not passive
Say what you mean. Mean what you say, Don't be mean when you say it. 
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Acknowledge concern: - this is important - don't tip toe around anger 
without acknowledgement they will stay in right side of the brain and not move on
"I realize it's upsetting to hear that you won't be able to access your unit, particularly because you need to access your belongings within the unit."
 
Manage expectations:  (must follow acknowledgement) balance tone so you are not aggressive, not passive
reiterate what was shared back in beginning of the conversation
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Guide to next steps: - move to closure- with the same clarity - let the customer know what they need to do next 

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Reframe the "Problem": How to Move on to Solutions
Training: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-o8X3sjoPH0&t=154s
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1. Here's what we know
2. Here's what we've done
3. Here's what's next 
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U- S- A Method: How to De-escalate Calls with Angry Customers
Training: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=846ZWzRznjo
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Understanding statement: I can understand why you would want to speak to with the manager.
Explain the situation: I am in this position to talk to customers like you. I’m here to solve problems.
Action to take: If I am not able to help you, absolutely, I will put you in touch with someone who can.
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Understanding Statements: 20 Good Empathy Phrases 
Training: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QOPFqlFsLMw
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Examples:

- I'm sorry you've had to call multiple times about the same issue. My goal is to get this resolved on this phone call.

- I want to get to the bottom of this just as much as you do.

- I realize you’re upset. I want to take a minute to talk about what I think has happened and then answer any questions you have.

- This is obviously a horrible time for you.

- I can see your point on that.

- I realize this has to be frustrating for you.

- I’m so disappointed to hear your experience started this way.

- I’d be upset, too.

- If I were in your position, I’d feel just as you do.

- I don't want you to worry at all, Your __ is confirmed, and you're all set.

- I know you’re anxious to see this completed.

- I know this isn’t the same as having a perfect experience initially, but I hope it shows you how sorry we are.

- I realize this has to be frustrating for you.

- This is no more acceptable to us than it is to you.

- I’m sorry about the wait. We’re short-staffed, but still, I’m sorry.

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How to Not Take Things Personally 
Training: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LnJwH_PZXnM
 
Two strategies to follow: 
1. Its not about me- focus on the intention of the other person 
2. It is about ME - because this situation brings forth an insecurity
Give yourself some empathy- what's the story your telling yourself..
Be aware that this is a feeling that is resulting from past & acknowledge that this is the present
If work appropriate, be vulnerable by communicating what you feel without blaming the other person
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